Not too long ago I did something completely out of character for me. When a friend invited me on a spontaneous out-of-town grocery run, instead of listening to the nagging voice in my head reminding me of all the things I needed to do, I tossed the chores aside and crawled in the car for a little one-on-one girl time.
Now I realize that this act isn’t newsworthy. But for most of my life it’s been a luxury I didn’t feel I could indulge in. Working mothers tend to be so busy that when the weekend comes their time is filled with their children’s activities, catching up on housework, buying groceries, doing laundry, or possibly just trying to catch a little relaxation time if it’s available – which it seldom is.
But relationships – both old and new – require nurturing. A hectic pace of life makes it easy for relationships to fall by the wayside. Just as a garden needs tending, your friendships and other relationships need care and attention if they’re to remain alive and beautiful.
Our friendships with our girlfriends give our lives a dimension that’s missing in our other relationships. While my husband is great and I enjoy spending time with him, he’s not interested in many of the “girly” things that my female friends and I enjoy. I’ve yet to see him gush over a purse, coo over a pair of sandals, or rave over a new nail polish. These are pleasures I only enjoy with my female friends, and even the best husband in the world can only tolerate – but not understand – these pastimes. The truth is there are some things best enjoyed in the company of other women.
How Your Female Friends Are Good For You
In addition to common interests, women’s friendships provide a shot of immunity against life’s rough patches. Several studies have found that the relationships women have with each other helps to regulate their stress levels. It seems that women are programmed to bond with other women and that their shared desire to talk about emotions and experiences helps to regulate their hormones, blood sugar levels, and blood pressure. Additionally, women who have more female friends are less likely to develop physical ailments as they age. In short, our female friends truly are good for us!
What Friendship Does:
- Decreases stress levels
- Boost our immune system
- Improves physical and mental health
- Releases oxytocin creating a calming effect
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Focus On Your Friends
Is there a relationship you’ve let falter? Is there someone you’d like to get to know better? The sad fact is that no one is going to read your mind and show up on your door step when you need people if you haven’t put forth some effort to build and maintain the relationship. Sometimes it’s hard because other needs can seem so pressing and urgent, but the end results are worth it. Our girlfriends make us healthier, happier, and remind us that we’re more than just wives and mothers: they help nourish the woman deep inside all of us.
Is there a friendship you need to rekindle? What activities do you share with your girlfriends?