Mother’s Day evokes images of flowers, gifts, and little kids running to jump on the bed and present mom with homemade cards. All wonderful images and my wish for you this Mother’s Day is that your day is filled with love, laughter, and beautiful memories.
But there’s another side to Mother’s Day that isn’t talked about as frequently. People who have lost their mothers have to decide how – or whether – to celebrate Mother’s Day when your mother is no longer living?
Time, unfortunately, marches on for all of us and with that march inevitably means the death of those we love. While I don’t believe in moping and going into mourning on holidays, it’s hard not to reflect upon the lives and legacies of those who have influenced us and shaped us into the people we’ve become.
My own mom passed away a little over four years ago after what could be called both a long battle and a short battle with cancer. The long battle was begun over a decade before with the discovery of colon cancer with the ensuing treatment. The surprise was the pancreatic cancer that caught us all by surprise and took her life a short five weeks later.
All holidays have a bittersweet quality to them once a loved one has passed away, but there is something about celebrating Mother’s Day without being able to call your own mother that doesn’t seem right. More than any other day of the year, Mother’s Day can be a difficult one.
My point is this – enjoy your mother while she’s around. Eventually the day comes for all of us when our mothers are no longer on earth to receive those flowers or gifts or to take those phone calls. So take your mom out to lunch, spend the day with her, or make the effort to spend more time on the phone with her when you call. Hopefully it will be a long time before your own mom is no longer here for you to wish her a “Happy Mother’s Day.”